Responding Instead of Reacting Teaches Us …

Responding instead of reacting is an act of self-nourishment and care.

Responding instead of reacting teaches us to intentionally pause and slow down before speaking. Reflecting on the situation and considering our options before opening our mouths leads us to use our words more mindfully.

Alex Elle

Responding instead of reacting teaches us to take a moment to breathe. When we feel triggered, overwhelmed or stressed, taking a few deep breaths to calm down and re-center before responding is key.

Alex Elle

Responding instead of reacting teaches us how to practice presence and empathy. Taking a step back and putting ourselves in the other person's shoes can be difficult, but it's valuable. Trying to understand their perspective helps us respond with compassion and understanding vs. haste and judgement.

Alex Elle

Responding instead of reacting teaches us the importance of listening attentively to what people are saying. Actively listening makes space for asking clarifying questions to ensure we fully hear their point of view, even if we don't always agree or understand.

Alex Elle

Responding instead of reacting teaches us to choose our words carefully. In the heat of the moment, this can be challenging. However, the more we emotionally mature and grow, the more we learn the value of using respectful and thoughtful language versus being so quick to get angry, play the blame game or be defensive.

Alex Elle

Gentle Reminder: Responding versus reacting is a skill that takes practice, presence and willingness to adjust. It's normal to slip up and backtrack. Be patient with yourself on this journey. Keep working on developing your ability to reply with thoughtfulness and intentionality in the face of adversity or conflict.

Alex Elle